My mom was here for an extended visit a few weeks ago. She has been meditating for years, so we have really formed a wonderful bond in the past few years now that we have so much in common. We share tips and articles, and we enjoyed meditating together while she was here.

My mother is beautiful, an extremely talented even planner, an incredible dancer, and she still has great legs (she won best legs in her high school class, and I have high hopes for my future seeing that she has maintained them), but she can’t take a compliment to save her life. I kept calling her on it while she was here, but to be honest it isn’t her fault at all. I have noticed that it is really hard for many people to accept compliments gracefully. Our society has conditioned us somehow to mock ourselves when we are complimented. I have been paying attention to this epidemic a lot recently, and I am on a one woman mission to help others learn how to accept a compliment with ease.

When someone says, “I like your shirt,” the proper response is “thank you” not “Oh, this old thing? I’ve had it forever and I don’t even think it looks good on me.” Or when someone says, “You look nice,” simply say “Thank you” instead of “Really? You think so? I don’t like the way my makeup turned out today at all.”

Do me a favor and practice now. Take a nice, slow inhale, hold it for a moment, and exhale it out slowly. Put a smile on your face and say “Thank you.”

Next time someone gives you a compliment that is all you have to do. Smile and say “Thank you.” Easy peasy!

I love giving compliments. I dole them out like candy, to the cashier at the grocery store, the teller at the bank, and my kids’ teachers. I give them freely to my students, my friends, my husband and my kids. Compliments make people feel special, and in turn it makes me feel good to bring a smile to someone’s face. Spread them like wildfire because even by doing something seemingly insignificant we have the power to change someone’s whole day.

Next time a person compliments you, accept their kindness with grace, and then pay it forward. You have the ability to raise the vibrations all around you, which in turn will raise your own as well. I can’t think of a good reason not to, can you?

Let me know in the comments what the nicest compliment you have ever received is!

2 Comments on You can dish them out, but can you take them???

  1. Alyssa
    March 10, 2015 at 8:15 am (2 years ago)

    This is definitely an issue for me. I’ve made a conscious effort to get better at just saying “thank you” over the years, but it’s hard! When I find myself wanting to downplay a compliment, I remind myself how much I like it when someone is able to fully accept one of my compliments.

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    • Ali Katz
      March 10, 2015 at 8:20 am (2 years ago)

      I totally agree! I became so much more aware because I noticed how others reacted, which prompted me to look at how I reacted 🙂

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