I really love this question that came from a reader recently. She asked how she can show the value of her meditation practice to her 13 year old daughter who thinks everything she does is embarrassing and hates this “whoo whoo” side of her.
I know that when I was 13 everything my parents did embarrassed me, so this is a totally legit question!
Here’s the thing, and it goes for our family, friends, co-workers, and everyone else in-between…we have to follow our path and let everyone else follow theirs, knowing that we have nothing to prove to anyone but ourself.
Just because we fall in love with meditation, or yoga, or hiking, or ballroom dancing, it doesn’t mean everyone around us will want to try it, even when they see how much we adore it, and that has to be ok.
When I started teaching meditation I thought that everyone I knew would want to come learn from me, but it didn’t happen. Yes, my business really took off, but much more from strangers than friends. At first my feelings were a teensy tiny bit hurt, but I came to realize that it wasn’t because my friends didn’t love me or want to support me, it was simply that my passion wasn’t their passion, or even necessarily their interest.
I became really careful not to preach about meditation to anyone that would listen. I was always happy to talk about my favorite topic, but only if someone else brought it up first.
We need to follow our hearts and do what feels right to us, without trying to convert anyone to our way of thinking.
What others will notice though, is how much our new passion has affected us in a positive way. In terms of this mom that posed the question, when her daughter sees that she is maybe less stressed, calmer, less reactive, having more energy, and more compassionate toward her family and herself, she just may take notice of mom’s new meditation habit, even if she doesn’t want to admit it! And Mom is still planting a seed in her daughter which can grow and bloom later in life. My mom meditated for years and I never paid any attention, that is until I was ready, and now it such a common bond that we share.
Other people pay much more attention to what we do than what we say. We can tell them all day long that meditation is amazing, but it will probably go in one ear and out the other. However, if they begin to actually notice our commitment, and positive changes in us, that is when they realize we are on to something!
My advice is not to worry about how “whoo whoo” anyone thinks you are. Stick to your program and let the magic happen.
If you have any questions or comments I’d love to hear from you, please post below!
Sending lots of love from here,